My Dear Mike,According to my divinations, it would be very good for you to perform Medicine Buddha practice for your grandmother. Visualize the seven Medicine Buddhas above her crown and follow the Medicine Buddha sadhana.

As to your question, how to help your friend leave, one thing I thought of was Amitayus po-wa, of course. She can visualize this but it may not be easy for her to do that.

Dear Norman,Your father is in need and seeing as you are the only one who can help then it is important that you do what you can to help your father at this time.

My very dear Norma,Thank you very much for your email.

My most dear, most beloved Mary,

One way of thinking about this issue is to not recite mantras to a dying person if it causes the person’s mind to be unhappy, to generate anger, and to be disturbed at the time of death, so that he or she will not be reborn in the lower realms.

You should place a picture of Tara so you can die looking at it. Play mantras constantly, until you die. Ask someone to read the Heart Sutra and prayers to you, so you can hear them before you die.

It is not appropriate to withhold this important and relevant information from her. Knowing that she only has this very short time to live should help her make what time is left most useful. This is very critical for her.

This is the most essential advice given by Lama Zopa Rinpoche for the time of death.

What is best to help and support her now is the recitation of the Golden Light Sutra. The students there can do it for her, and others who know her in other areas can do it for her. It’s not necessary to be in her presence.