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Healers and Healing

Compassion is Most Important for Healing Others

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Rinpoche discusses the need for compassion in the medical profession and recommends Medicine Buddha and Chenrezig practice in this advice given to a student who had asked what pujas were needed to pass tests in order to become a Chinese medicine practitioner.

Lama Zopa Rinpoche in the new gompa at Khachoe Ghakyil Nunnery, Kathmandu, Nepal, May 2015.  Photo: Ven. Lobsang Sherab.
Lama Zopa Rinpoche in the new gompa at Khachoe Ghakyil Nunnery, Kathmandu, Nepal, May 2015. Photo: Ven. Lobsang Sherab.

I checked what puja is needed and it came out for the extensive Medicine Buddha Puja, composed by the Fifth Dalai Lama, to be done five times by Kopan Nunnery. This came out best, so please tell the nuns at Kopan Nunnery that I asked that they pray hard for your great success in studying Chinese medicine and for you to be most beneficial for sentient beings, not only to heal disease but to purify the cause of disease, so for them to make strong prayers.

Also for you to practice Medicine Buddha. The great Heruka yogi, Pabongka Dechen Nyingpo, said from the side of sutra, the most powerful Buddha to pray to for success in these degenerate times is Medicine Buddha. From the side of tantra, the most powerful deity to pray to for success in these degenerate times is Heruka.

Normally I think even mosquitoes, crabs, frogs and ants should recite OM MANI PADME HUM, the Chenrezig mantra, and also Medicine Buddha mantra. Why? Because they want happiness and don’t want suffering, but they don’t have the opportunity, they don’t have a human body or the karma to do this. Of course it doesn’t mean that anyone who has a human body has the opportunity to recite these mantras. Most human beings in this world don’t recite these mantras; they don’t have the karma, the fortune, good luck. It is so sad, so sad, because they don’t know, they have not created good karma in the past, so nothing happens. It is very sad, because they have to experience many problems and their mind always follows negative karma and stops the virtue, even though what they want is only happiness. It is like that, so difficult, an unbelievably sad situation. So we are most unbelievably, unbelievably, unbelievably, unbelievably, unbelievably fortunate to have met the Buddhadharma in this life while we are human beings.

[It is very sad] if you don’t take opportunity to recite these two practices; it is the most important thing in the life, not only for enlightenment, but even for ordinary things—for success with the ordinary things in this life; very, very, very ordinary things. If somebody is clever, intelligent and has a lot of merit then they must recite these two mantras every day. Don’t renounce that, it is so silly, it’s the worst thing if you have all the opportunity but don’t do it.

So please carry on, the one before. Where I said it’s the worst thing if you don’t do these two, I was just saying this generally, so maybe you are already doing this. Please recite at least these two practices, even if you don’t do other things, at least do Chenrezig and Medicine Buddha, please, please, please.

Especially if you are dealing with medicine and sick people, you have a responsibility, so please do the short Medicine Buddha practice every day. There might be another one, a shorter one, that might come out, but I haven’t got it translated into English, so this is the smallest Medicine Buddha practice. It is very rich, it is the essence of the middle length Medicine Buddha puja that is normally done at centers. There is also the most extensive Medicine Buddha puja that is written by the Fifth Dalai Lama, however, this one is the essence. The essence is reciting their names seven times and the mantra and making requests to them. This is so important, very important, very important, very important, very important, very important. Then at the end, after reciting each name seven times, you can make this request:

May I be able to heal sentient beings, not only their disease but also any sickness and spirit harm, and not only that, but also to heal where that comes from—delusion and karma. Just by seeing the patients, touching the patients, hearing the patients, remembering the patients and talking to the patients, by the patients hearing my voice, my name, so just by that, may their disease, sickness and spirit harm be completely healed and may the cause of this—delusion and karma—be completely purified. This is even before taking the medicine.

May I become wish-fulfilling for the sentient beings. Generally may I become wish-fulfilling for the sentient beings, more than skies filled with wish-granting jewels and wish-granting trees, so more than that, and may I be able to cause high rebirth and ultimate happiness, liberation from samsara, the peerless happiness, buddhahood, full enlightenment.

This is what you should pray after reciting each of the Medicine Buddhas name seven times and also at the end during the dedication.

If you can do this practice, wow, wow, wow, that will give you so much power and also wisdom and compassion.

In this line of work (medicine) compassion is the most important thing. In India, where I lived for eight years at a place called Buxa Duar,  I heard that some doctors, just by touching their hand on the patients, just like that, they cured them of their pain, so that was from compassion. It is very important. Even if you are not expert in medicine, in diagnosis, but just have a lot of compassion, people can be healed. Some patients aren’t healed even by wise doctors, those who have studied so much about medicine and diagnosis; the patients don’t recover. However, some doctors who didn’t learn much, but who have so much compassion, they can really help the patients recover immediately. You have to know these things, what is the most important thing, the key thing to have.

Actually what you need, what is most important to benefit and to be most beneficial for sentient beings is to develop compassion, so that means you need  to read lamrim and also Shantideva’s Bodhisattva’s Way of Life and other things that help the lamrim. By developing renunciation then you are able to develop compassion, so that helps you to develop compassion. Also developing realization of the suffering of the lower realms, the devas and human beings, and the general sufferings of samsara, by understanding that, we generate more compassion. When you think of the suffering of others, meditate on that—that is really, really the best thing. It means you have to know Dharma, read lamrim and any other books like The Bodhisattva’s Way of Life, Nagarjuna’s teachings like Letter to a Friend and so forth.

If you want my advice, this is my suggestion. This is what is most helpful for the people.

For example, Geshe Lama Konchog was at a center and there was one baby that was in the hospital and the doctors had completely decided that the baby was going to die soon. But Geshe Lama Konchog did a few minutes’ puja and that baby completely recovered. Even though Geshe Lama Konchog had not studied extensively about the disease and diagnosis, he just did a few minutes’ puja and the baby recovered. Of course, he had compassion as he is a meditator. There are many stories like this, even though they didn’t learn about medicine or diagnosis, they didn’t go to school and didn’t learn from doctors for many years; they didn’t study medicine.

In the West, doctors don’t know that compassion is the most important thing in their work, in the treatment. Compassion is the most important thing, but they have no idea, they only study medicine and diagnosis. To really know well you need clairvoyance, especially in such degenerate times, the diagnosis of disease changes, it is not the same as before, and then many times there is the danger of giving the wrong medicine. I think in the West people care too much their health, they take so many medicines and sometimes the medicine kills them. This is just my view.

Also, sometimes the medicines are made by companies for profit, to be useful in business, then the companies ask famous doctors to say how this medicine is very good and then they take the doctors for seven days’ holiday in a five-star hotel at a beach resort. I heard these things—that it is just for business, for money. There is no compassion in that. In Tibetan medicine, to learn Tibetan diagnosis and medicine, it is explained that first you need compassion, you need to respect the patients, not to think of them as dirty, as you have to taste their pipi, so in Tibet medicine there is no thought of dirtiness. There are few things to learn at the very, very beginning that are not mentioned in Western medical knowledge, such as being kind to patients. This is explained as it is a very basic, important thing.

Medicine Buddha is very powerful for success. Praying to Medicine Buddha, reciting the seven names of the Buddha and the mantras is so powerful for success. Also not only to have success at being a doctor, but also generally when death happens, so as not to be reborn in the hell realms, as a hungry ghost or in the animal realm and to get a high rebirth, a perfect human rebirth, to meet the Dharma again, to meet a perfectly qualified teacher and by pleasing most, all the time, then to achieve enlightenment as quickly as possible, for sentient beings. Or to be born in pure land where you can be enlightened; this is a quick way to free the sentient beings from the oceans of samsaric sufferings and to bring them to enlightenment. Praying to Medicine Buddha is very powerful for success.

I was asked what puja should be done for the family this year. What came out in the observation was to recite the Golden Light Sutra four times. Maybe this can be discussed at the center; drinks and tea or whatever people need can be offered and then they can read the sutra four times. The pages can be shared. Or request the Sangha in Taipei or Taichung to meet at the center and read the sutra.

The other puja is the Four Mandala Offerings to Tara to be done well. It came out to be done at Drepung Nunnery in south India, There is one nun who is Lama Yeshe’s relative, she is one of the elder ones, who is a teacher and in the first group of nuns to become geshe-mas.

Thank you very much for carving the crystal Padmasambhava mantra, but this is not the normal Padmasambhava mantra. You have to copy from the ones I have given to people before, which is the mantra given by Padmasambhava to put in water that people drink. It purifies the mind, blesses the mind and makes us achieve enlightenment. So please copy from those ones, as it is not the normal Padmasambhava mantra.

With much love and prayers ...

Healing Mantra and Visualization

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Rinpoche gave this advice to a student who does healing work.

When you practice healing on someone in pain, one method is to visualize the moon syllable OM on your hand. It is white in color and its nature is light.

You should then recite the Most Secret Hayagriva mantra, which you need to memorize:

HRIH VAJRA KRODHA HAYAGRIVA HULU HULU HUM PHAT

While pressing your hand on the painful area, keep reciting this mantra.

Connection With Kuan Yin

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A student wrote to Rinpoche about her strong connection with Kuan Yin [Skt: Avalokiteshvara] and advised that she had healed someone with her hands. She asked Rinpoche what it meant and if he had any advice.

My most dear, most kind, most precious, wish-fulfilling Lin,
I am very, very happy that you sent me a letter explaining this. My comment is that you must use this power. Kuan Yin is helping you to have this power, so you must use it. You must heal many people from sickness and cancer like you did your Mum, so your life brings benefit to others. You’re completely OK to do this, so you must do it.

Unless there are some people who don’t have the karma to be healed and you get some feeling or prediction not to do it for that particular person, you must do this healing. The purpose of our life is to benefit the most kind, most precious, most dear, wish-fulfilling sentient beings and free them from the oceans of samsaric suffering and its causes, karma and delusions, and bring them to peerless happiness, full enlightenment.

So please, when I hear someone has cancer, if they can sponsor you, would you mind coming to heal them? That would be so good, that would be fantastic. This is a gift from Kuan Yin to you, because your life is good, you have a good heart and so forth. So it must be in relation to that, to your connection with Kuan Yin.

I would be very happy to receive your letters from time to time, so please write.

With much love and prayer...

PS: Soon I will be going to Nepal to attend the one-month course, and then I will go to India for His Holiness the Dalai Lama's teachings. I will also give teachings and spend some time in India.

Please make your life most meaningful with the thought of bodhicitta day and night.

PPS: Please, as you are blessed by Kuan Yin, with total faith you should try to heal and help others as much as possible, especially the people around you. Also, I will let you know about anybody who you can help. This is the purpose of our life.

Offering Comfort and Help to the Sick

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A student wrote to Rinpoche about her nursing work. She hoped to offer service as a nurse at one of Rinpoche’s projects or centers in the future. She also asked Rinpoche about practices and a yidam in this life.

My very dear Julie,
Thank you very much for your kind letter. I am sorry it took so long to reply.

Yuthok Yonten Gonpo, a great lama who established the knowledge and lineage of Tibetan medicine, gave this advice from his experience of the benefits of meditating on and reciting the seven Medicine Buddha’s names and the Medicine Buddha mantra for sick people. He said that patients are the great merit field of all the collected merits, and even though there are very extensive and very, very profound means of collecting merit that have been taught by Buddha, there is no comparison with serving someone who is sick.

  • If you take seven steps to help one patient, it is the same as circumambulating all the buddhas.
  • If you give medicine one time to one patient, it is the same as having made charity to all sentient beings.
  • When you fulfill the wishes of one patient, it is equal to having made offerings to all the worthwhile objects.

There are numberless bodhisattvas who totally dedicate their lives to sentient beings, including all the sick people, so even their breathing in and out is only for us sentient beings. They never even take a breath for themselves. It is sentient beings that they pay the most attention to and love and cherish the most; just as a mother cares for her beloved child and cherishes her child the most, even more than buddhas and other sentient beings. Definitely she cherishes her child more than herself. So, for example, if somebody even praises her child a little, it makes the mother so unbelievably happy, or if someone gives the child a present, it makes the mother so happy. Also, if someone criticizes the child even just a little, the mother becomes so upset and hurt.

This is how bodhisattvas regard sentient beings. So, if we give a little harm to sentient beings, bodhisattvas are so sad, and if we give a little help or comfort to sentient beings, bodhisattvas are so happy; this is what makes them most happy. This is just mentioning bodhisattvas, so no question about buddhas. Now there is not just one Buddha, there are numberless buddhas.

Helping one patient by giving medicine or whatever comfort, physical or mental, that you can give; now you can see how this becomes the best offering to all the numberless bodhisattvas and buddhas. You can also see that harming one sentient being, by cheating or killing them and so forth, but then making offerings to Buddha—you can see that really does not please the buddhas.

Giving medicine or any comfort that you can to a patient is the best offering to numberless bodhisattvas and buddhas; it is what makes them so happy. This is not just referring to patients, but to any sentient being. To give comfort or help to any sentient being is the best offering to the buddhas and bodhisattvas.

It is said in the Bodhicaryavatara:

Even the mere thought of benefiting sentient beings
Is higher than making offerings to the buddhas.
Therefore actually attempt to work for sentient beings’ happiness.

Here, there is no need to actually mention medicine specifically; helping in this way is the best offering to numberless buddhas and bodhisattvas. Therefore, cherish your patients and all sentient beings as much as possible, with love and compassion. Helping your patients is so good; it is the best Dharma and such a good practice. As I have mentioned here, it is a way to collect the most merit, the most good fortune and the most good luck. It is really great!

Whatever you do with your body, speech and mind for sentient beings—whether it is giving medicine, food, money or whatever is needed to your patients—then this becomes a very special offering to all the buddhas and bodhisattvas. When you help or give offerings to your patients (or another sentient being), you should think that you are offering to all the buddhas and bodhisattvas. Then it not only becomes charity to your patient or any other sentient beings, but it also becomes an offering to numberless buddhas and bodhisattvas, and numberless holy objects. So it is one action, but it has two benefits.

So it is very good to do your work and live your life with this motivation, then whatever you do becomes cherishing other sentient beings and every action that you do to help them becomes a quick cause of enlightenment.

For example, even though Maitreya Buddha generated bodhicitta earlier than Shakyamuni Buddha, he became enlightened later than Shakyamuni Buddha, because Shakyamuni Buddha’s bodhicitta and compassion towards sentient beings was much stronger. When Maitreya Buddha and Shakyamuni Buddha were in a past life, they were brothers. They were walking and saw a starving tigress with five cubs that were all dying of starvation, but Shakyamuni Buddha could not bear it and came back later to offer his body to the starving tigress. He gave his body, but Maitreya Buddha didn’t do that. This shows that Shakyamuni Buddha’s compassion and bodhicitta was stronger and this is why he attained enlightenment faster. This was due to his strong compassion. So, the stronger the compassion that you can generate to sentient beings, the quicker you will attain enlightenment. This is what it depends on.

You are so fortunate, such a very fortunate person, and it seems you are very sincere, from your letter and what you mentioned.

For your greatest success and so that your actions can benefit others most, it comes out for you to practice Medicine Buddha and especially to recite the Medicine Buddha’s name and mantra. There is a booklet that I put together many years ago with Ven. Gyatso. This booklet is the essence of the Medicine Buddha sutra and the Medicine Buddha puja. This is what you should practice. [Note: this booklet, the Medicine Buddha Sadhana, is available from FPMT Foundation Store.]

Reciting the seven names of the Medicine Buddha is great, so unbelievable. Reciting these names is the same as reciting all the buddhas’ names. Making offerings to the Medicine Buddha is the same as making offerings to all the buddhas. Making prostrations to the Medicine Buddha is the same as making prostrations to all the buddhas. Circumambulating the Medicine Buddha is the same as circumambulating all the buddhas.

If you recite the seven Medicine Buddhas’ names and make prostrations and offerings to the seven Medicine Buddhas, then all the prayers that are mentioned in the sutra become successful.

It is very good if you recite the long mantra of Medicine Buddha 100,000 times, if you can find the time; if not, then recite this mantra 40,000 times. If you can do that, it would be so good. You can do it in retreat, or if it is hard to do strict retreat, then do a session in the morning or twice a day, if you have time, and in this way complete the recitation.

Then study the Middle Lamrim of Lama Tsongkhapa (I can email this to you if you need it). Also study Manjrushri’s Own Words (this is a lamrim text). Then use The Essential Nectar lamrim to meditate on, by following the outlines. Please read the Middle Lamrim from beginning to end three times.

Do effortful meditation on guru devotion for four months, then the graduated path of the lower capable being for one month, the graduated path of the intermediate capable being for five months, then the graduated path of the highest capable being: bodhicitta for two months and emptiness for three months. Keep circling like this, for this length of time until you have stable realizations, effortlessly. So, continue this meditation until you have stable guru devotion realization—not just for a few hours or in one session, but continuously—until from your heart when you think about the guru you see Buddha. The guru reminds you of Buddha; there is Buddha, having ceased all obscurations and mistakes and completed all the qualities. Without effort, 100 per cent you see that from your heart. So, if you don’t have this realization then you must continue to meditate on this, no matter how many months or years it takes, by following the outline. You can use The Essential Nectar, but also read other lamrim commentaries; also by following Manjrushri’s Own Words lamrim outline, whatever is easier.

For daily meditation, use The Essential Nectar. In this way try to have all the realizations of the lamrim. First try to have effortless realizations of the lower capable being’s path; meditate on that to have the realizations of each meditation, step-by-step, no matter how many months or years it takes. Then continue until you have effortless realizations of the middle capable being, then bodhicitta. Once you have realized bodhicitta, then you can do more tantric practice. But you should meditate a little on emptiness every day, even just for five, ten or fifteen minutes. After you have realized bodhicitta, then mainly you can do tantric practice—generation and completion stage. So, this is my main advice for now.

Please find my advice attached for your life practices, what to focus on for your whole life, along with some additional information.

I hope to see you again; life is short and this human life is more precious than skies filled with wish-granting jewels. Try not to waste a second of your life and make your life most beneficial for sentient beings.

So you being a nurse is very good for sentient beings. Thank you very much.

With much love and prayers,

Lama Zopa

 

Healing With Medicine Buddha Practice

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A student wrote about his healing, which he attributes to Rinpoche’s teachings. About two years ago he developed two autoimmune diseases —a neurological disorder and fibromyalgia. He had so much pain and fatigue that he had to stop working and his prognosis was poor. After reading Rinpoche’s book Ultimate Healing, he did the Medicine Buddha practice every day and his health began to improve, so he could return to fulltime work. He still has quite a bit of pain and fatigue, but his health has continued to improve. In addition to the Medicine Buddha practice, he does powa for dead animals, including deer, foxes, squirrels and cats. He now dedicates the merit of everything he does to the well-being of all those with sickness and pain. The student thanked Rinpoche for all his wonderful teachings, and for the opportunity to do the home study program now available through the FPMT.

My very dear one,
Thank you very much for your kind letter. I am so sorry for the many eons of delay, I had your letter with me for a long time, but wasn’t able to reply.

Besides that book I have also translated a small Medicine Buddha practice, which is really, really good. It is the essence of the Medicine Buddha sutra taught by Buddha and the extensive Medicine Buddha puja by the Fifth Dalai Lama, and the short practice by Panchen Losang Chökyi Gyaltsen. This is a small text, but it is very, very powerful, that you can use also.

I am right now making another Medicine Buddha practice, with the longest Medicine Buddha mantra, and some short practice with my own suggestions. I’m trying to do the longest Medicine Buddha mantra and some of the prayers each day. When I finish this I will send to you.

Reciting the Medicine Buddha mantra is so powerful, it is the same as reciting all the buddhas’ mantra. If you circumambulate the Medicine Buddha, you get the same merit as having circumambulated all the buddhas. If you make offerings to Medicine Buddha, you get the same merit as having made offerings to all the buddhas. If you recite the Seven Medicine Buddha names and recite the Medicine Buddha mantra it fulfills all your wishes and prayers. It is so incredibly powerful.

So even if you have not completely recovered but are much better, this is really due to the power of the Medicine Buddha practice.

I was really very happy to receive your letter and hear about your experience. Please make your life most meaningful with the thought of bodhicitta, day and night and in everything you do.

With much love and prayers...

Practice Advice for a Healer/Psychic

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Rinpoche gave the following advice to a woman who, from an early age, was able to heal people with her hands. She was able to diagnose some ailments from sight, and with time taught herself how to harness her powers so she could work on people both “hands-on” and from a distance in meditation. Also, from a young age, she had some ability to see future events, both for herself and others. These were often in the form of warnings in order to prevent difficulties arising. When these warnings were heeded, there were great benefits, and when not, the event usually happened as warned.

In her meditation she was able to remain in a state of concentration for some hours, and although she had not studied or received teachings on the lamrim in this life, her understanding of the stages showed very strong imprints from previous lives. Almost all of what she had learned to do, both healing and meditation, she had taught herself, and so she met with Rinpoche to discuss and receive advice on her healing and her meditative experiences. She wanted to study either clinical medicine or naturopathic medicine in order to be able to do her healing work with fewer obstacles. Her husband was upset by her growing interest in Dharma and meditation and so she had to limit some of her activities.

Rinpoche gave the following advice in a series of letters and two meetings.

The main emphasis for the moment should be on the lamrim (stages of the path to enlightenment). You should aim for the realization of bodhicitta, so therefore you need to train your mind in the middle scope (to develop renunciation of the whole of samsara), and as a basis for that you need to train the mind in the lower scope (to develop renunciation of this life). So, you should start step-by-step developing the realizations of the lamrim. These realizations could come quite quickly for you. If you are able to attend lamrim teachings from a qualified master, then experiences on the path could come even during the teachings. Therefore, it would be very beneficial for you to try to attend such teachings when you can. You should use emptiness as your object of concentration.

For the quickest path to enlightenment, so that sentient beings do not have to suffer, after you have studied Liberation in the Palm of Your Hand, you should engage in the practice of Highest Yoga Tantra. For this, you have the strongest connection with Most Secret Hayagriva, and this is the deity with which you will have the quickest path to enlightenment. You also have a strong connection with Hevajra and Vajrayogini. (Sometimes it is good to practice a Mother Tantra and a Father Tantra together as a most powerful practice. In this case Most Secret Hayagriva is a Father Tantra, and Vajrayogini is a Mother Tantra.)

Aim for realization of bodhicitta. This is necessary to develop the mind of clear light. Clear light is the only direct cause to achieve the Dharmakaya, which is the cause for enlightenment in this life. Then practice the Six Yogas of Naropa, which is a completion stage practice. First, go for realization of bodhicitta, which means starting with renouncing this life.

For now, please read and meditate on the lamrim. Realizations might come quickly and it is good therefore to check your understanding with the definitions of renunciation and bodhicitta. Then develop the nine levels of shiné using emptiness as your object. When emptiness and dependent arising support each other, that is the right view. Then, when you have bodhicitta, practice tantra. When the deity and the mandala appear instantly you have achieved the gross generation stage. Then achieve the subtle generation stage, then work on the completion stage. So, progress like this, step by step. Study Liberation in the Palm of Your Hand all the way through. Then, you can soon take the initiations of your deities.

Regarding tantra, just as we can make the same journey using different methods of transportation, so too we can use different methods to travel on the spiritual path. The many skillful methods that are employed by the tantric path make it the quickest path to enlightenment.

In answer to your question, it would be good to study medicine, but it is not the final solution because doctors cannot deal with the cause of suffering, which is the negative thoughts and imprints on the mind, and negative actions. Doctors deal only with conditions, and so treat things by changing the conditions, diet, etc. By changing conditions and giving external medicine, if it cures, it only cures temporarily. As long as there is no education in Dharma, delusions are always there, karma is there, suffering and the cause of suffering are there, and samsara is always there. Then, there is still a continuation of reincarnation, and thus old age, sickness, and suffering.

When you have received the initiation for Most Secret Hayagriva, if you can do the retreat, then you can perform the rituals for this practice. The main thing is to meditate very strongly on bodhicitta. This is the basis for releasing harm from spirits. Due to the truth of the Buddha’s words, knowing some rituals works. Of course, if you have some power, then it helps more. But bodhicitta is especially important. Like we use flour to make many types of food, and we use water to cook many different types of food, so bodhicitta is the most important ingredient for any practice. Then, on top of that, we use tantra. The doctor/medicine alone cannot remove a spirit. If you can deal with spirits then you can help a lot. It doesn’t require medicine.

There was a baby in France that the doctors said would definitely die. Geshe Lama Konchog did a short puja for the baby and the baby lived. Medicine is good, but there are many limitations. If you become famous for your healing then many people will come to you regardless of whether you go on to do more medical training.

I checked about your becoming a nun in the future and it did not seem to be a good thing to do. However, having children would be of great benefit for sentient beings, because your children might be very special beings. However, this is not with your present husband. With your present husband, having children would be negative. Having children with another husband would be very beneficial for sentient beings. The main thing is that you should decide on this. I am just offering my view on what I see for your future. As you have some ability to see the future, you can check carefully whether your present husband is the right person for you to have children with, or you could end up with many problems. I wanted to give you this information so you can check for yourself. If you really can’t tell which way is best, then you should pray to the deity for the best, most beneficial thing for sentient beings.

The way that you responded to your husband’s anger at your being late home after a Dharma talk was very skillful. Your response was that his anger was due to his fear of losing you. As Dharma is something that you want to pursue, his trying to prevent you from doing so is only going to push the two of you apart. Your answer was brilliant. It used logic like senior monks would use on the debate ground in the great Tibetan monasteries. That is how it pacified your husband’s mind so nicely. Normal beings cannot think to speak in that way. Then, they stay unhappy with each other. But you were able to do this, so your husband immediately changed his mind.

The difficulty is that before you met the Dharma, you walked the path of worldly life, and Dharma happened later. If Dharma had come into your life before, then there would be a lot of freedom now.

Regarding your husband, if the situation becomes very difficult, then you can pray for him to meet another partner. This way you don’t need to fight or ask him to leave. He will just naturally go away. But it is completely up to you. I am just saying this to you. I am not saying to leave your husband now; it is just a thought for the future, because you said you wanted to have children, and that would be negative with this husband. So I am just letting you know. Anyway, having children would be beneficial, but not with your husband. This shows how things can change. If his mind changes through prayers to meet somebody else, then this is the happy, peaceful way. Whatever you do, it is up to you. You don’t have to feel upset by this. You can also check for your future, what is best. It looks like the essence of your attitude is good, to benefit sentient beings; there is some great benefit you can offer the world and sentient beings. Whatever decision is to be made in the future, you can take it happily.

Of course, this life is not very long, so whatever is of benefit to the world, to living beings, then normally that is what we would choose to do. One can change things for the better. We have a universal responsibility because all our happiness comes from other sentient beings, and we need to cause them to achieve happiness in their future lives, liberation, and enlightenment. This is what they need so this is what we must do.

Also, we have the opportunity to learn and actualize the path because we have Buddha nature. Because we have a body, it makes it so easy to help others. We can’t ignore this. And there is a lot of happiness that you can cause even for yourself. If you learn and practice more Mahayana Dharma, and practice more bodhicitta, your aim is to benefit all sentient beings. Your concern is not just with a few beings.

I don’t think you need to be upset by any of this, like ordinary people, because you are different from most people. Your mind is like sunshine, it’s not darkness. It just needs to come out from behind the mountain of whatever is blocking it. It is easy for you to have realizations, easier than for most people, which means it is also easier for you to liberate yourself from delusions and karma, to liberate others, and to enlighten yourself and others. Everything is much easier.

Most people think small and, like a dirty cloth, have so many defilements. It is so difficult for them to understand and accept the Dharma, to practice, and to attain liberation and enlightenment. In your case, you don’t have to think in that way. You just need to learn more Dharma, especially thought transformation.

There is the lesser vehicle, then the greater vehicle, then in tantra, everything is viewed as pure: pure mind and pure appearances. Everything is viewed as transcending ordinary appearances. It is like another world.

When a worldly person thinks or does something, everything contradicts the Dharma. If they were to come to a place where people are practicing Dharma, he or she would not fit in and would feel strange. So you see, feeling like you don’t fit into society doesn’t mean that you are wrong.

Even for oneself, after this life, the consciousness has moved on. We want happiness for all future lives, so we need to create the cause for that. On top of that we need to achieve liberation, whereby we won’t experience suffering ever again. So we need to create causes for that. If we want to achieve enlightenment, then we need to create the causes and actualize the path. If we want to help others—to cause not just happiness for this life but for all future lives—that is not possible without Dharma. And then there is liberation and enlightenment. Other beings need all these levels of happiness.

So, you don’t have to worry, just take it easy. This is just for the future, depending on how things go and on your wishes. Especially, aim to accomplish ultimate happiness and peace for every living being. Think that nothing is permanent, that things change due to causes and conditions. And, of course, you know that things are empty.

I would like to tell you two stories about nagas that I worked with. There was a very kind lady who owned a restaurant in Berkeley, California. I was doing a naga puja related to Most Secret Hayagriva called “Liberating from the Naga Harm Landlord.” The lady was sitting downstairs in my house in California, and I was doing the puja upstairs. During the puja she had a vision of the naga continuously coming out of her head. Then when I put the blessed water on her head, the naga completely left. So, this shows that the water that we bless during ritual practice is actually a lot more powerful than we often think.

Another time at a retreat in Taiwan, a naga entered one of the women at the retreat. I asked the naga not to harm her, and then the naga very respectfully requested me to give it refuge. During the retreat the naga said that it had been kicked by one of the protectors that are placed outside the retreat boundary, but still it had managed to enter into this woman. I asked the naga to explain what it was like outside, where it had come from, but the naga didn’t want to talk, because this was the only time it had to practice. This time was so rare and precious that it didn’t want to waste it talking! The naga did say that outside there were so many beings, like a forest, mainly spirit beings. So, I sent a nun and the woman’s friend out to sprinkle some blessed water on them. The naga said that this was very beneficial for these beings, purifying so much negative karma. One day the woman put some blessed water on her head and then she saw the naga come out, turn into Kuan Yin (a deity of compassion), and then fly away.

You would be of great benefit teaching Universal Education. It is a project that my teacher, Lama Yeshe, started and is now being developed. The idea is to teach children the important subjects that are left out in school. I want to include feng shui, yoga, astrology, psychology, and healing as secondary subjects, while meditation and Dharma are the primary subjects. You would be a great teacher. There are always books, but people will be able to see that you actually have those qualities. Otherwise it is only words, and the mind is not there, and people are not inspired. In the future it would be good for you to teach Dharma and meditation to crowds of people. It will be to crowds of people.

Even though things look permanent now, things are dependent arisings, dependent on causes and conditions. Prayer can change karma whichever way we think or wish. The mind can change the world, the individual’s world. Things can change with a negative mind and with a positive mind. Pure prayers can bring so much peace and happiness both ways.

When you are experiencing difficulties, you can think that you are taking and experiencing the karma of any sentient being who wishes for something and doesn’t succeed. Think “I am taking on and experiencing their suffering.” As many sentient beings as you think of, that many eons of negative karma are purified. Sentient beings are countless, so there is that much purification. That becomes the cause of success, up to enlightenment, not just for you but for all sentient beings. Every time you have that thought, it leads to enlightenment. Every time you have the thought to experience the suffering of countless sentient beings, have the attitude of bodhicitta, and then practice, it benefits all sentient beings.

You shouldn’t feel alone. We share your difficulties as if they are ours, like family. Whatever problems you have, you should think it is the same also for us. There are countless buddhas and bodhisattvas, all one family, with you. They see you without even one second’s break. They are with you all the time, and so are we. So, you should not think that you are alone. There are so many other beings on this earth who think in a similar way as you, and who are having similar experiences.

If you don’t think of freeing beings from oceans of samsaric suffering and its causes, delusion and karma, and only think of this life’s short term happiness and pleasures, this is just the same as how ordinary people think. They spend their whole life like this because they don’t know Dharma. Then, this precious human life, with Buddha nature, is blocked and wasted. With that attitude in life, you don’t achieve all the happiness of future lives, liberation, and enlightenment. You don’t complete all the realizations and can’t offer full benefit to others. The vast amounts of benefit that you can offer to sentient beings can’t be accomplished. The happiness that an ordinary being can give is like a drop of water compared to great oceans. Also, you experience great regret of not having developed wisdom and compassion and having missed out on achieving ultimate happiness. The future becomes dark because of suffering and regret.

Even though from the outside your life looks ordinary, your attitude is of Dharma, with bodhicitta, the thought of benefiting others, and a healthy, pure mind free from the pain of attachment, with bodhicitta free from the stain of self-cherishing thought, and wisdom free from seeing things as existing from their own side, but as dependent arisings. Things appear ordinary but in reality everything becomes Dharma. Free from a painful mind, everything becomes Dharma and the cause of happiness. The mind of renunciation brings liberation, the mind of bodhicitta brings enlightenment, and the mind of wisdom brings the antidote to ignorance, like medicine healing the sicknesses of samsara.

Even the negative imprint of the seed of ignorance can be removed by developing wisdom. Then you can be liberated from all the suffering of samsara. This is living life with lamrim, the steps on the path to enlightenment, even though it appears from the outside as ordinary. Then, with Mahayana Tantra, everything is transcended.

Ordinary people seek only the happiness of this life and this is the cause only for suffering. The next life will be in the lower realms, or, even if, due to good karma, a human life is achieved, there will still be much suffering. Ordinary people’s lives are very confused and dark. Also, there is a lot of guilt, repentance, fear, and worry.

In your case, you have a good heart, so already you can understand and it is easy for your mind to become Dharma and the path. You must rejoice and appreciate your past lives, which mean you can now accept Dharma, and it is easy to understand it. Most people cannot even accept Dharma. So, please enjoy life. You don’t have to worry at all.

Rinpoche gave some teachings on emptiness within his advice, as follows.

Everything exists by mere name, merely imputed by mind. But everything appears to exist not merely labeled by mind. Phenomena appear to be real, existing from their own side. This is totally non-existent and empty. Why does it appear like this? Because our mind is hallucinating.

Other schools of Tibetan Buddhism say that things do not exist because Buddha does not see them, that Buddha sees only emptiness. The valid mind is the only absolute wisdom and the rest is only a hallucination. The other schools have the idea that the absence of a vase is the emptiness of a vase (so when there is an empty room, then there is an absence of a vase, there is no vase in that room, and that is an example of how phenomena are empty). But they posit that things are not non-existent, because things are the basis of samsara and nirvana. Things are neither existent nor non-existent. So, this is how the other schools talk about emptiness. It is an interesting way of explaining, but I think that the subtle expression and point is missing. Lama Tsongkhapa emphasized the necessary interplay of dependent arising and emptiness. He taught about the two truths: conventional truth and ultimate truth.

You have some experience of emptiness, but you don’t know how to express it because you didn’t study the philosophy. You don’t know how to express the subtle points. So, you have to relate your example of the magician making something (say, a pen) appear and then disappear to the pen appearing and believing it to be not merely labeled. It appears and is believed to be not merely labeled by mind, to be real, existing from its own side.

So, there is some substance, and then the magician says a mantra, and that substance appears to be a pen. This is like an inherently existent pen, due to the magician saying the mantra. When the magician stops—the illusion can last only a certain amount of time—then the other people don’t see it. You realize the pen doesn’t have any true existence at all; not even the slightest atom. It is totally empty (of any true existence), but that doesn’t mean that the pen doesn’t exist. The pen exists. You don’t fall into nihilism. You realize that there is a pen. You have an unshakable, stable, certain realization that the pen exists, but it exists in an opposite way to how you believed it existed before. It exists as merely labeled by the mind. Here, you are realizing the conventional truth—how the pen can exist. The cause is the ultimate truth that the pen doesn’t exist from its own side.

The magician can transform a stone into a palace, an elephant, or a beautiful lady or man, something that people are attracted to. Now, most of the audience believes it is real. The magician himself, maybe he also sees it, but he doesn’t believe it. There are people who see it but don’t believe it exists. Then there are others who are not affected by the illusion, who do not see it. There are three levels.

The first level represents sentient beings who have not realized emptiness. They see everything as real and truly existing, even though it is merely labeled by mind. Most of the audience is like that.

The second level represents sentient beings who have realized that things are empty. The way things appear is as merely labeled by mind, not existing at all, totally empty. But at the same time there is an appearance. Even an Arya being, who has wisdom directly realizing emptiness, when he or she is not in equipoise on emptiness, then all phenomena appear as truly existent. This is the case until omniscient mind is achieved, due to subtle imprints left on the mind due to past ignorance. There are two types of imprints. One is like a seed that, when it is removed completely, then nirvana is achieved, but the subtle seed is still left. As long as the subtle seed is left, then the hallucination of the truly existent appearance is produced for any phenomenon: the “I”, action, any object of sight, sound, smell, taste, touch, hell, samsara, nirvana, happiness, problem, delusion, even the path to liberation and enlightenment. The moment something is labeled by mind, there is a projection on that name by a subtle negative imprint.

That’s how in daily life everything is merely labeled by mind, for 24 hours. Whenever we talk, even give teachings, for example at college, all the billions of subjects that we learn are merely names, just names we are not aware of. They are constantly labeled, but when they appear, they appear as not merely labeled by mind. So, in life, everything appears real. Friends, enemies, all the usual problems appear as real, but in reality they are empty. There is death and rebirth, but there is no such thing as real death and real rebirth. There is death and rebirth but it is totally empty.

There is no question that these things appear real for ordinary beings. Even for Arya beings, everything appears as a hallucination until enlightenment. Ordinary beings believe they are true, so they are totally trapped like an animal caught in a cage, a fish in a net, a mouse in a trap, or a person in prison. We can’t say how many years it will take them to get out. It is difficult to see. This is how sentient beings are suffering. Not only does suffering have no beginning, but also it is difficult to see the end. This makes us have to work hard, to progress on the path. The higher we progress on the path, the more we are able to help others.

The third level is the enlightened beings. Buddha doesn’t have hallucinations. Buddha is free from the subtle dualistic view, because of having been freed from the subtle imprint on the mind. But Buddha sees our hallucination. So, too, with your clairvoyance, you can see how other beings view things.

In daily practice it is useful to use the magician as an example. Your ignorance is like the magician, and leaving a negative imprint is like the mantra. Inherent existence is a projection of the “I”, action, and object. It is a covering of inherent existence on reality. You are the audience that is deceived by the illusion, and your ignorance is the magician. We can use different techniques to meditate on emptiness.

Regarding other matters, I checked with whom you should have children. Westerners and Tibetans didn’t come out well, maybe a Chinese or Mongolian man. Also, you don’t always need an actual physical partner to have a child. Sometimes there can be devas or protectors involved. Sometimes Dharma protectors give birth to beings. The father of Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche was one of the protectors. There is also a girl in Lhasa, a relative of Pari Rinpoche, who had a child, but the whole family knew that she had no husband and had never had a physical relationship with a man. The son is now a monk studying at Sera Monastery. So, if there is a special person, then other beings can help, but this is rare.

In order to help others, you need to study texts. You need to combine texts and experience together, which helps to be able to express things in words. Please read more Dharma books and stories of other yogis and enlightened beings. This will help to confirm your experience, and then you are able to help others that other people (hospitals, etc.) can’t help.

If you do retreat, then I am sure that you will get a strong connection with the deity; maybe a lot of experience. This will reinforce your present experience.

There is a grass that grows in China and the holy places of Heruka. From this grass comes smoke in the daytime and flames in the nighttime. It has an incredible scented smell, and if animals eat it, they develop renunciation. There was a student of Lama Yeshe’s near Lhasa in Tibet. He saw an animal eat this grass, and tears came into the animal’s eyes due to the sadness of samsara. Then, the animals have a good rebirth when they die. If you eat this grass, then when you die, you don’t get reborn in the lower realms. When people make bread and add the grass, then when beings eat it they develop bodhicitta and renunciation. When people were sick, they ate this medicine, and received the benefit. In the past, many mantras were written with ink from this grass. I remember the very strong smell of the ink, not like perfume that arouses desire, but a holy smell. My idea is to collect this grass and make pills to heal AIDS and other sicknesses, also to help to transcend the mind.

In Nepal there is one lake. In the middle of the lake there is a black flower. When a person went to get it the person drowned, maybe because of his attachment. Could you check where it grows? Some of the holy sites of Heruka are Bari (connected to the body of Heruka), Mount Kailash (speech), Lapchi (mind), Sipri (body, speech, and mind), and an area near the Chenrezig Potala in China.

To prepare for death, meditate on emptiness as a solution to what makes us circle in the continuity of aggregates from life to life, and experience suffering and its cause. This is caused by ignorance, so to stop that we need to eliminate ignorance. What eliminates ignorance is the wisdom realizing emptiness. To eliminate the aggregates, we need the wisdom that sees emptiness, and then we have liberation from samsara. This way we go through the death process and use death as a way of actually stopping the circle of death and rebirth. First we meditate in the ordinary way on the death process, and then in the tantric way to stop the circle of death and rebirth.

Studying the lamrim would be terrific. Study lamrim before tantric deity practice. Also, your healing and helping people is very important. You can help even without other people needing to ask you. Even if sick people go to a very large, expensive hospital, they may not be healed, because many of the diseases come from karma. Your method will help, as there is no method available in the hospital to help with harm from spirits.

There are many causes and conditions for these diseases. By doing something wrong in the past, which means harming others, then sickness arises. That is karma, which is a person’s negative action performed in the past, either from this life or a past life. The main thing, from their side, is to change their minds, abandon the cause of suffering, and practice virtue.

You have said that your wish is to make changes in your life according to this advice as soon as possible. This is the best response. We may not meet for a long time, so this is my advice.