Difficulties With Son
A student wrote that her son was very angry, selfish and unkind to his girlfriend, and he only contacted her when he wanted money. The student was previously ordained, but had disrobed.
My very dear Leah,
I am very sorry for the long delay in replying. I read both your emails and checked.
Recite the prayer, the Mantra Promised by Tara, and mention your son’s name. Read this every day, with the best prayers for him to change immediately and totally rely on the Buddha, Dharma and Sangha; for him to abandon the ten nonvirtues and to practice virtue and the three higher trainings. Also, for him to generate compassion to all sentient beings and bodhicitta, to train the mind in the path and the realizations of the five paths and the tantric stages—the generation and completion stages—and enlightenment.
Also recite the Heart Sutra for him, that is very good. If you can, also read the Arya Sanghata Sutra. Even you don’t finish it in one day, it doesn’t matter, just continue the next day and dedicate this for him.
If possible, if you are able to, sponsor the recitation of the Kangyur. If you can’t afford that, then sponsor the recitation of the Prajnaparamita. There are twelve volumes, three volumes and one volume and then the essence is the Heart Sutra. It’s best if it is recited by the Sangpa Khang-tsen [at Sera Je Monastery, India]. If it’s not possible due to your finances for even the recitation of the Prajnaparamita, then at least have one volume recited.
Make sure you request that it is dedicated for your son, for him to change immediately, to totally rely on the Buddha, Dharma, Sangha; for him to abandon the ten nonvirtues and to practice virtue and the three higher trainings. Also, for him to generate compassion to all sentient beings and bodhicitta, to train the mind in the path and the realizations of the five paths and the tantric stages—generation and completion stages—and enlightenment.
Even though you didn’t stay as a nun, you are taking the Eight Mahayana Precepts again and again, and wanting to do prostrations in Bodhgaya. That is so good, I like that so much. Thank you, this made it worthwhile to live a long life.
When you pray for your son, as above, also add that he will generate compassion to all living beings, stop giving harm and only benefit others up to enlightenment.
With much love and prayers...