Daughter Opposes Mother’s New Partner
After a couple divorced, the woman was trying to develop a relationship with a new man, but the daughter opposed the new relationship. The mother and daughter were fighting bitterly over it, and the daughter was refusing to allow the mother into the house. A concerned friend asked for Rinpoche’s suggestions.
That is terrible. But the mother should not jump easily into a new relationship. She should consider carefully. Leaving a relationship with someone is not like giving up the guru, it’s not as serious as that, but, still, when you give up a person, it is very negative, because you cause so much hurt. Because of that, she should first check well, before beginning a new relationship.
Generally, though, one party has to be flexible. If the daughter is not flexible, then the mother must be. She can think, “Who do I cherish more? Who is more important?” One person must let go of her self-cherishing, since two self-cherishing thoughts will fight.