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Advice book

Purifying Sexual Misconduct

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A young student wrote to Rinpoche asking how to purify acts of sexual misconduct.

My very dear one,
Thank you for your letters. This advice is the answer to your question regarding how to purify whatever non-virtue has been committed, to purify it, and, not only that, but to create vast amounts of merit in the shortest time, for your quick enlightenment, so you can liberate all sentient beings as quickly as possible and bring them to enlightenment as quickly as possible.

  1. Prostrations to the Thirty-five Buddhas: 50,000
  2. Arya Sanghata Sutra: Recite 2,000. After you have finished this number, then continue reading it in everyday life, a little each day.

Your Highest Yoga Tantra deity for your quickest enlightenment is:

  1. Vajrakilaya
  2. Heruka Five Deities

You can pick from these two, depending on which one you have more feeling for.

The most important thing is to practice the lamrim. I will send you some information on how to meditate on the topics and the length of time for each topic:

  • Lower capable being: 4 months
  • Middle capable being: 4 months
    • Bodhicitta: 5 months
    • Emptiness: 12 months

Recite the Thirty-five Buddhas’ names, prostrate to all the buddhas, Dharma, and Sangha in the ten directions, which are numberless, and all the holy statues, scriptures, and stupas in the ten directions, which are numberless. If you prostrate only to the Thirty-five Buddhas you create only 35 causes of enlightenment. So, the visualization is of all the buddhas, Dharma, Sangha, statues, scriptures, and stupas in the ten directions. With one prostration you create numberless causes of enlightenment. How many times? Six times a numberless number, which means numberless buddhas, Dharma, Sangha, statues, scriptures, and stupas. Then, by thinking of all of them as the same as the essence of the guru, you create six times a numberless number—the most extensive merit.

In this life, your main motivation should be to learn Dharma and do hard work for sentient beings. Working at Dharma centers offers two services: hard work for sentient beings and to help spread the Buddha’s teachings. So, do hard work for sentient beings, as explained, with strong bodhicitta, as much as possible.

With much love and prayers...