Ordination Advice

My most dear one,
Thank you very much for your kind letter and concern about life. I did a divination and it comes out best for you to become a monk.

You have to know, we have received a perfect human rebirth that is qualified with eight freedoms and ten richnesses just about one time, and the most important thing is that we don’t take it for granted. This perfect human rebirth is so precious and it is just for a short time. It can be ended this year, next month, next week, tomorrow or even today, in the next hour or the next minute. We can never tell. We have to think about this every day, with mindfulness. Not only have we received this precious human body, but a perfect human body.

As you know, nothing else at the death time benefits—not the world, the family, surrounding people, wealth or even our body that we cherish most among the numberless sentient beings. Being attached to those things only brings harm and makes it very difficult and [we will] be born in the lower realms. What helps at that time is only Dharma, nothing else.

You have to know that we have had sex—even sex with anybody, man or woman—numberless times from beginningless rebirth. We have suffered and experienced the sufferings of human beings, devas, suras, and particularly the sufferings of the lower realm beings—hell being, hungry ghost and animal—numberless times.

That means if you don’t become monk, if you don’t abstain from sex, you will experience the endless suffering of samsara again, particularly in the lower realms. It’s a big decision for your mind, whether you want to experience the endless suffering of samsara again, particularly the lower realms, or whether to become a monk, and particularly to abstain from sex.

Life is short and we can die, even today, next minute, not sure. There are many people in the world who die without having cancer, without having any disease. There are many people dying without that. They die suddenly, all of a sudden, probably every day, so many people die, you have to know that.

If you practice Dharma and become a monk, then [you will achieve] happiness. The lower realms continue, but when you achieve the ultimate happiness, freedom from samsara, the blissful state, and especially when you achieve the peerless happiness, buddhahood—the cessation of obscurations and completion of all realizations—then you are able to free numberless sentient beings from the oceans of samsara suffering and bring them to the peerless happiness, buddhahood.

Actually, we are cheating ourselves. Actually, there is no time for attachment to arise, but only for Dharma practice, renunciation of attachment, anger and even the root of samsara, ignorance and the self-cherishing thought. This is the foundation of the Buddha’s tantra. In tantra we abandon ordinary concepts, ordinary appearance and ordinary subtle wind and mind, which creates samsara. This is according to Highest Yoga Tantra.

With much love and prayers ...

My most dear, precious, kind, wish-fulfilling one,
Thank you for your kind email, I am sorry for the long delay. You becoming a nun is unbelievable, unbelievable, unbelievable. Thank you a billion, zillion times. Thank you very much.

Try to know the vows and live in the vows. That is the foundation for all the path to enlightenment. That is the basis for the bodhisattva vow and the bodhisattva vow is the foundation for the tantric vow. The bodhisattva vow is to achieve enlightenment for numberless sentient beings, to free the numberless sentient beings from the oceans of samsaric suffering and bring them to full enlightenment. The tantric vow is to achieve full enlightenment as quickly as possible. Even in this one lifetime of degenerate time, and you can enjoy the life.

This is the way to make the life most happy and beneficial for all sentient beings. Thank you very much.

With much love and prayers...

Student's Letter 

After residing at Nalanda Monastery last year, participating in the Basic Program, I realized quite clearly that Nalanda was not the best fit for me. I also discovered a very strong urge to study and practice the early teachings of the Buddha as preserved in the Pali Canon. I visited several Western Theravada monasteries of the Thai Forest tradition in England and the USA and in December of last year took up residency at one of these. I know that I have found the monastic environment most conducive for my progression along the path. I have requested the samanera ordination from the abbot and this should take place in late July. In one year's time I intend to request the full (bhikshu) ordination in this tradition.

I have written to His Holiness the Dalai Lama to inform him of my decision. I am not returning the getsul vows I took from His Holiness (nor was I asked to do so). I am merely re-ordaining as a novice. Because I am dedicating the rest of this life to following faithfully and purely the Buddha's teachings, as a monastic, and that I daily recollect my motivation for doing so—namely, for the ultimate benefit of myself and all sentient beings—I have no doubt that you will accept my decision. I often contemplate the good fortune that enabled me to find my way to you and to His Holiness the Dalai Lama. I would be grateful for your blessing as I move into this next phase of my spiritual journey.

Rinpoche's response

My very dear Robert,
Thanks for your letter about your life and interests, according to your karma. Please do what His Holiness the Dalai Lama says.

Buddha has allowed us to check up on Buddhist teachings, but I think other religions do not allow this. So, check up if one way has mistakes or not. Check up whether you find mistakes. Or maybe the person finds mistakes and then gets very confused and completely lost. If you don’t check, then this way may have some benefits, but there may also be mistakes. Please check up if the mistakes or the benefits are greater.

With much love and prayers...

Some people ask why it is necessary, in the modern world, to live an ordained life. Is it really necessary when one can practice Dharma and achieve enlightenment as a lay person?

If you tell some Western people about Buddha displaying the 12 deeds, first being a child, then living a householder’s life, the married life, then renouncing that and becoming a monk, they might think ordination is only for Eastern people, for Eastern culture. Because Buddha lived in India, they will think it doesn’t relate to the West and, especially, they will think it relates just to ancient times. People think like this; it’s normal.

Likewise, Western people don’t know about the mind, nor do they know much about karma, or, for example, about the existence of the hell realms. Because these were taught by the Buddha in ancient times, people feel that hell doesn’t exist now. If hell doesn’t exist now, that would mean that nobody creates the negative karma to be reborn in hell. But if no one could possibly be reborn in hell, then everyone would have to have stabilized realizations by now.

Usually, in order to not be reborn in the lower realms any more, one would have to have attained the Patience level, which is the third of the four levels of the Path of Preparation. Of the five paths to liberation, this is the second.

Jesus Christ also revealed the method of living in ordination. From that, so many monasteries and nunneries were established, which have produced so many saints and monks and nuns in Christianity.

It is mainly because of delusion that people say ordination is not relevant to the 20th century. You should protect your mind from delusions so that you don’t harm other sentient beings or yourself. In this way, you won’t receive harm from others, and you will receive much peace and happiness. That is the nature of karma. This is the immediate goal; the longer-term goal is a good rebirth, and then by far the longest are liberation and enlightenment.

However, even though Buddha and Jesus revealed the method of ordination, this doesn’t mean that all lay people can be monks or nuns, just as because some lay people can practice well, that doesn’t mean that all lay people can practice well. It doesn’t mean that.

It is difficult for most lay people. Not everybody has the karma to become Sangha. Not everybody can become Sangha, only some people can, because you need a lot of merit and no obstacles to be Sangha. If there is no obstacle coming from your mind, manifesting, then also there is no obstacle from outside.

The main point is that you need a lot of time to practice Dharma, for which you need to keep distant from the object of delusions. This is especially true for a beginner. You need to practice until your mind is stabilized in the realization of the three principles of the path (renunciation, bodhicitta, and emptiness), and, if possible, even up until one is an arya being. This is why monasteries, nunneries, caves, hermitages—ascetic places—are needed. This is why monasteries have discipline, discipline in the mind and externally. There you see the importance of morality.

In order to actualize the fundamental path, you need the conditions for that practice. You need a lot of meditation, a lot of time to study and to meditate. The most important thing is to not distract the mind. The more negative karma you create, the more obstacles to realizations you make. And that means it takes longer and is more difficult to become free from samsara, even just for your own happiness.

Therefore, as much as you live in pure ordination, that much less do you engage in negative karma. Renouncing the householder’s life and living as Sangha cuts down so much negative karma. The idea is to have less external activity and work, less distraction, and therefore much more time for meditation and study. There are a lot of advantages to living the ordained life. There is a lot of time to meditate, to study, to develop one’s mind.

One of the most important things for really developing the path to enlightenment is the realization of shamatha or shiné—single-pointed concentration. And for that you need a lot of discipline, a lot of protection, a lot of morality. You have to cut a lot of distractions. Even to meditate well for one hour, you need to cut distractions and apply discipline; you need to renounce attachment even for that.

If you follow attachment, you cannot meditate even for one minute; you cannot find the time. For example, if you sit down and your mind follows attachment toward your boyfriend or girlfriend, the object of desire, then you won’t be able to meditate for even one second. Even from this simple example one can understand that living as an ordained person makes life much easier.

Environment is very important in order for Sangha to continue to be inspired to remain monks and nuns and to continue to practice—month after month, year after year—and to develop the mind in the path to liberation and enlightenment. Especially for a beginner, whose mind is not stabilized with the three principles of the path, with calm-abiding and so forth, the environment has a strong effect on the mind. It controls the mind of the person who doesn’t practice lamrim, of someone who, besides having no realizations, doesn’t even practice. If you know the teachings but don’t practice, whether you are lay or Sangha, then external objects will control your mind, overwhelm your mind, and that makes you seek and run after objects.

But when you start to meditate on, to practice, lamrim, the three principles of the path, the mind is able to overcome outside objects. The mind is more powerful than the outside objects when you meditate effectively, when you apply the teachings of the Buddha, especially the lamrim, in daily life.

During the time that you apply the meditation, the mind is able to control the outside object, whether it is a living being or a non-living thing. Whether the object is a handsome, beautiful person or a beautiful flower, when you apply the lamrim, the mind can overcome it; the mind is more powerful, and the objects are under its control. Why? Because the delusion is under the control of lamrim practice, the practice of the teaching of the Buddha.

As a beginner, you need to have strong lamrim meditation and at the same time to be away from disturbing objects. The mind is very weak because it has been habituated since beginningless time with attachment, and has not been habituated with the three principles of the path to enlightenment. Therefore, the delusions are very strong, especially when disturbing objects are around you, and your intention or desire to seek liberation is very weak. The delusions are so strong in seeking samsara, seeking the object of delusion, of pleasure or desire.

Therefore, you need strong lamrim meditation to subdue the mind, to control the mind, and at the same time you need to retreat from, keep distant from, the object of delusion. You need to retreat from attachment and to retreat from the object of attachment. If you don’t retreat from the internal suffering of attachment and desire, then being ordained with desire objects around you will be a bit like sitting next to a fire and at the same time wishing to be cool.

Of course, one thing is to set up a good external environment for Western Sangha, but from the side of the individual Sangha member, they need to stay in the right environment. If someone sets up a good environment but the individual Sangha member doesn’t stay in the right environment, then, as I mentioned before, because the mind is very weak and there is no realization and no stabilization, the external object will take over the mind. This means you will follow the delusions. The delusions will take over your mind, and you will be unable to practice Dharma and unable to live in the vows. That makes life so hard, so difficult, and that is why living in ordination feels like living in a prison. This is a mistaken view.

By thinking of the results of living in ordination—liberation and enlightenment—you should feel extremely fortunate, and you should enjoy all the advantages you can get. Morality is like a degree that gets you respect from others, a job to earn a living, and a one-hundred-percent good rebirth whenever you die. Morality is a passport to a good rebirth. Most urgent is to stop rebirth in the lower realms; and then, on top of that, morality is the basis, the foundation, for liberation and enlightenment. Therefore, there is a need to set up a good environment.

There are so many benefits of living in ordination, as explained by Buddha in sutras and in the lamrim teachings. In the monks’ confession that is made twice a month, some of these benefits of keeping vows are recited for inspiration, as are some of the shortcomings of breaking vows. Bhikkshus who have morality have “shining body glorification.” They naturally become known to people, famous. People praise their qualities. They achieve happiness.

There is no way for one who has morality to receive harm from others. This point is very important. To receive harm from others you have to create the cause, that is, you have to cause harm to others. So you should concentrate on the importance of this very logical point. A person who doesn’t have eyes cannot see form. Likewise a person who doesn’t have morality cannot be liberated. A person who doesn’t live in morality is like someone without limbs and so cannot walk on the road to go where they wish. (This is not talking about using modern techniques like artificial legs.)

Just as a vase is a basis for containing jewels, so morality is a basis for all the realizations. If the vase is broken then it cannot act as a container for precious jewels. Similarly if someone breaks vows, then it is difficult to achieve realizations. So without the very foundation of morality, can one achieve the sorrow-less state in the future? No.

These are just a few of the benefits from the sutra spoken by the Buddha that is normally recited in the bi-monthly confession for both bhikkshus and novices.

Each Sangha member has to have a plan to protect themselves by living in the right environment. That is why monasteries are set up; that is the purpose of the vinaya rules. They help to protect the mind. By protecting the mind, guarding the mind, you become free from all the problems and obstacles, all the sufferings. You get liberated ultimately from all suffering, from samsara, the oceans of sufferings. All your wishes for happiness up to highest enlightenment are fulfilled, and you also cause happiness for all sentient beings.

Many of the vinaya precepts describing what to do and what not to do were advised by Buddha to protect other people’s minds, to prevent them from criticizing the Sangha, which is a very heavy thing. That happens if you are careless of sentient beings’ minds, their feelings, their happiness, their suffering. So, one does have the responsibility to guide other people’s minds. If one is able to follow the vinaya correctly, it generates a lot of faith in other people’s minds and plants the seed of liberation and enlightenment. It inspires them to follow the path by taking ordination.

Normally, sentient beings follow the Buddha’s example of how to practice Dharma. Being a Sangha member causes others to respect you and causes them to create a lot of good karma. Even when they respect you, they create much merit. Also, living in pure ordination causes your prayers to have so much power for success when you pray for other people. Your prayers and pujas have great power to be successful for other people. If you are living a pure life, that means you can achieve the result much more easily. Your recitation of mantras has much more power, and is more effective. The deities, buddhas, and Dharma protectors have to listen to your requests. They have to help you. They have no choice because of your purity; and even without your requests they naturally have to serve and help you.

When other sentient beings make offerings to you, they create a lot of merit. Since you are living purely, there is also no danger to yourself from accepting offerings. Otherwise, it is said in the teachings, eating offerings is like drinking lava or eating iron when it is afire with flames. It is said that to eat these is much easier than to live on the offerings made by people with devotion.

There is a big difference between lay and ordained people giving teachings. If you are ordained, there is a great effect, because what someone sees is a person living in renunciation. Lay people will respect what you are doing, living a life that the lay person cannot; you have a quality that is difficult for them to achieve. Respect comes from the side of the lay people.

Lay people should think in this way, they should look at Sangha in this way, and let it cause devotion. If lay people don’t think Sangha have any qualities, don’t make offerings, and don’t support Sangha, they don’t create their own good karma.

Without protecting the mind, without morality, you cannot offer perfect service for other sentient beings, even if you are a lay person. When you try to help others, problems and difficulties always arise because you have ego, because of the three poisonous minds. So, without Dharma practice you can’t really offer perfect service for others. Sooner or later, a problem arises in your work, whether you are running a country or doing public service. Even in normal daily life it is like that. Without morality, without protection of the mind, without some discipline, you can’t really have satisfaction, peace and happiness in your heart. You can’t have fulfillment in your heart.

Even Hindu practitioners can achieve the nine levels of shamatha, which is one of the common meditations that can be achieved even without refuge in Buddha, Dharma, and Sangha. Even they are able to achieve a detached mind, renouncing the desire realm and their own pleasure. That means even they follow morality and discipline, along with this renunciation. They become detached by thinking of the shortcomings of being in the form realm. After that, they achieve even the tip of samsara within the formless realms, which have the four mental states. They become detached from the three previous realms by thinking of their shortcomings.

So, even Hindus practice and are able to achieve renunciation, although not renunciation of the whole entire samsara. A description of the five paths is not mentioned by them, nor even emptiness. There is no way to achieve liberation without emptiness, without knowing the Prasangika view of emptiness, from the four schools of Buddhist philosophy.

If ordination does not have a big advantage, if it is not extremely important, then for what reason did Buddha himself show a monk’s life, shaving his head himself at the River Nairanjana?

According to the Mahayana, Buddha’s becoming enlightened in Bodhgaya was not the first time; in reality, he became enlightened an inconceivable time ago. All the 12 deeds that Buddha showed, and the Four Noble Truths, teach us sentient beings how to practice Dharma. There are all these sufferings and problems, and the one way you can get out of them forever and never experience them at all is by overcoming the cause for them, by liberating the mind from delusions and karma. Only then will you achieve ultimate liberation and never have to experience suffering at all. That can be achieved because there is a true path that one can practice, a method. So, basically the Four Noble Truths and the 12 deeds show how to practice Dharma.

Generalizing that it is the best thing for everyone to leave ordained life and take up lay practice is a wrong concept. The problem is, one: a lack of real understanding of Dharma, especially karma; and two: the extremely important thing missing is the meditation experience, renunciation by realizing the sufferings of samsara and the lower realms, realizing impermanence and death. There is no strong experience there; the realization is not there.

Even when there is some understanding of Dharma, it all remains intellectual, so the mind stays the same or becomes worse. There may even be stronger delusions there than before, depending on the person. Then, of course, the way one lives life is with delusion: the one from whom one has taken refuge is delusion, the friend is delusion, the guru and Triple Gems are delusion. Then one follows someone else, and they too are delusion.

Life like this can be extremely difficult, very confused. Or there might be a Sangha member in robes, with a shaved head, but inwardly the opposite. Of course, nobody is making one’s life difficult. Oneself is making one’s own life difficult, because one is in a prison of samsara due to following the delusions. Then, because of your own experience, from not having practiced Dharma continuously, you tell everybody that it is not a good idea to be a monk but better to be lay and practice Dharma.

In Tibet we have a practice called tsa-tsa: from a block of Buddha’s image we make many hundreds and thousands of tsa-tsas. It is like you become the block and make everybody become the same as you. I think that this might be a way of making bad tsa-tsas.

What makes the life of nuns or monks difficult is this. But if, in your heart, the goal is nirvana, then it becomes extremely easy, no problem. Even if you face some hardships, it is a pleasure; they are not important to your mind. However, if, in your heart, the goal you want to achieve is samsara, the delight of samsaric pleasures, then even if other people don’t make your life difficult, you yourself make it difficult. Even if other people think it is OK, in your mind it is difficult. So, living in ordination depends on what is in your heart as the goal. If you change it from samsara into liberation and enlightenment, and keep that 24 hours, all the time, then there is no problem. This way your life is not torn apart, and it is very clear in your heart.

Of course, you can’t have both samsara and liberation. As was mentioned by the Kadam geshes, you cannot sew with a two-pointed needle. As the Kadam geshes say, seeking the happiness of this life and seeking Dharma don’t occur together. If you seek the happiness of life then you lose Dharma, like the example of the two-pointed needle which cannot sew. Dharma and liberation are lost when you seek both nirvana and samsara.

One can understand from these examples, even without relating them to Buddhism, the importance, the need, for ordained life. So, generalizing in the West that it is not a good idea to be ordained, taking lay practice as the best thing for everyone, that is a wrong concept.

Being a gelong brings many more extra benefits. It says in the text: “The merit a lay person can collect in 100 years, an ordained person can collect in one day. These are the benefits of living in ordination, every day is like that."

Great son of the Victorious, Shantideva, said the only medicine to heal the suffering of the transmigratory beings and the originator of all happiness is the teaching of the Buddha. That depends only on the existence of the Sangha, who correctly preserve the Dharma. Therefore, one can see how important, how essential, is establishing a monastery and its existence. Also, the holy Khedrub Gelek Palsang, Lama Tsongkhapa’s heart disciple, said every single panacea and happiness of all the embodied ones came from the teaching of the Victorious One. The foundation to increase the ocean of the teachings of Buddha, the Sangha, is the great treasure of this ocean.

Normally, it is said that the teachings of the Buddha exist in a country if there is a monastery with a group of monks holding the lineage of the pratimoksha vows and practicing the vinaya. A monastery is a place for monks to practice, preserve the Dharma, and spread the Dharma. By practicing the vinaya, they preserve and spread the Dharma. By building a monastery, the Sangha has the opportunity to practice the vinaya, and preserve and spread the Dharma. This has unbelievable blessings and benefits for the world, the country, and the area.