My suggestion is to try being with him for four months and check during that time. It is not necessary to have a fixed amount of time, that is just my suggestion.I thought you already knew samsara and had experienced it.

My very dear Norma,

Although you don’t have the karma for your relationship to be beneficial, the fact that you are together indicates that you have some previous karma to deal with. You are now married to a person who was created by your delusions and karma.

My very dear Kathy,I deeply apologize that I didn’t get to talk to you that day, when you were returning to your home.

A student’s husband had become abusive and was threatening her. She asked Rinpoche whether to file for divorce, as it was becoming intolerable. Her husband had been abusive in the past and Rinpoche had helped at that time.

The relationship problems of people in the West are based on both people’s negative karma, which was created previously.

After being in an abusive relationship for some years, a woman had recently separated for her husband, after suffering physical, verbal, and emotional abuse. Rinpoche wrote her the following letter.

During a stay in Hong Kong, Rinpoche was hosted by a woman who was experiencing excessive strain in her marriage. According to her, the primary condition for the escalating tension between her and her husband seemed to be the financial difficulties her husband’s business was encountering.

A student asked Rinpoche what she could do to pacify her brother's aggressive behavior. For years he had been extremely hostile toward her and her mother. The student also asked what she could do for her elderly mother, who suffered from several illnesses and might not live long. Rinpoche gave this advice on extensive purification practices the student could do on their behalf.

My very dear Leah,I am very sorry for the long delay in replying. I read both your emails and checked.