It’s OK to feel happiness when we help. If pride comes, think, “I am fortunate that I'm able to help.”Focus on benefiting others.

My very dear Janine,Thank you very much for your kind letter. Regarding your question on pride, this is my advice.Each time pride arises, it leaves negative imprints on the mind.

You are not losing your enlightenment, your liberation from samsara. You’re not losing a good rebirth in your next life. If that were the case, that would be something to be seriously worried about.

That is no problem at all. It is good, because you waste so much of your time if people are interested in meeting you. Then, no meditation, no study, nothing, just blah, blah, blah, blah.

Regarding the other people who are negative toward you, others being jealous or negative toward you and disliking you is a sign of samsara. We’ve created various karmas in the past, from our own side, so these results are deserved.

Dear Ian,As far as performing a marriage ceremony, Lama Yeshe used to perform a ceremony such as Tara Puja. As a monk you can't say you are asking them to get married.

People getting married should make offerings to all the Sangha. You can invite all the Sangha members and people from the Dharma center together to recite prayers. These are the suggested prayers for the Sangha and everyone to do.

This is a strange way of thinking. You may rush the marriage, but end up with a lifetime of misery, fighting, and disharmony, and this doesn’t make sense. This creates so much worry, problems, and unhappiness in the family, and also for the parents.

A student who was married with five children had been struggling to make ends meet and the financial hardship, along with other factors, led to relationship problems. His wife now wished to separate. He wrote to Rinpoche requesting advice for his spiritual practice.

A student was in the middle of a relationship break-up and had no access to his tools for making prayer wheels. Rinpoche sent this letter.